In this post, I’ll go over 9 disempowering words to remove from your vocabulary and what to replace them with to empower your life. This will not only improve your mindset but it will also have a great impact on how you show up in the world and your outlook on life.
Words are powerful
- “I hate…”
- “I have to…”
- “You never…”
- “I should…”
How do you feel reading these words? Did you notice a slight discomfort and uneasiness?
- “I love…”
- “I want to…”
- “I choose to…”
- “I’m great at…”
How about these? Did you notice a change in vibration, in energy?
Words may seem harmless but they are extremely powerful. Every word carries a vibration with it and directly impacts you. Some words bring joy, power, and strength and some words rob you of those very things.
Our inner monologue shapes how we view ourselves, how we show up in the world, and yet we take for granted the very words we speak every day.
Words shape our reality
What you believe shapes your reality. Research shows that your thoughts influence your physical body. In his book, The biology of belief, Bruce Lipton describes how our DNA is controlled by signals from outside the cell, including the energetic messages emanating from our positive and negative thoughts. New scientific discoveries about the biochemical effects of the brain’s functioning show that all the cells of your body are affected by your thoughts.
How incredible is that?
Since the words we say and think every day directly affect your reality, shouldn’t you be more intentional in choosing them?
Use words to empower yourself
Intentionally choosing your words modifies your energy and vibration levels. Using positive words and language shifts the way you view the world and yourself. It can inspire, move, and motivate you in ways you didn’t think were possible.
So here are 9 disempowering words to remove from your vocabulary and what to replace them with to improve your life
9 words to remove from your vocabulary and what to replace them with
1. I’m not as _____ as _____
Comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t get me wrong, comparing yourself as a motivating factor to move ahead and celebrate other people’s success can be positive. But most of the time, comparing yourself to others brings feelings of worthlessness and discouragement.
Empowering alternative: “I am great at”. List things you are amazing at and focus on those. Be genuinely happy with where and what you are.
2. I can’t
When saying “I can’t” in front of any sentence, you are submitting to defeat, doubting yourself, accepting failure and giving up. Let’s be honest, the word “can’t” usually means “I won’t” or “I don’t know how”. It’s a way to stop yourself from taking risks.
Empowering alternative: “I can” and figure out how to get it done. This simple replacement changes your mindset and can fuel your motivation. However, if you realize the thing you “can’t” do is because you don’t really want to do it, that’s ok! Replace “I can’t” with “I won’t” or “I don’t want to”.
3. I have to
Saying “I have to” implies that you lack freedom and the ability to make a choice. It implies that you are not in control of your life. Everything is a choice. Even if you can’t change the situation (we don’t always want to do certain things), you can choose how you feel about it.
Empowering alternative: “I get to”, “I choose to”. This fosters a more gracious and thankful mindset.
4. I should
The word should is usually accompanied by a feeling of shame or guilt and loaded with expectations: I should eat less sugar or I should exercise more often. It can give you a feeling of resentment or discouragement.
Do what feels right for you, not what you other people expect. Do what you’re excited about, not what you feel obligated to do to meet other people’s expectations. Be clear on what you want to do and be ok with what you don’t want to do.
Empowering alternative: “I could”. The word “could” offers options, possibilities. You can take the time to analyze the situation and reflect on what you really want instead of judging yourself.
5. I’m too old or I’m too young
Age is just a number, it’s an illusion! It has nothing to do with your ability to do something. If you believe age is a barrier, it will be a barrier. If you believe you can do anything no matter what your age, you’ll be able to do just that! Do what feels true for you!
Empowering alternative: “I can and I will”.
6. I hate
This word is so strong and yet we use it all the time. Hating something or someone means you wished it or they never existed. Can you imagine the vibration and energy that comes with that? Nothing good ever comes from hating anything, right?
Empowering alternative: Instead of focusing on what you dislike about someone or something, analyze how it makes you feel. For example, instead of saying I hate broccoli, say Broccoli upsets my stomach. Try to state facts and work through your emotions.
7. Never and Always
The words never and always are absolutes. They are commonly used but seldom true. When you say “I always quit” or “You never help me”, ask yourself if this is really the case? Also, by saying “I will never do X” or I’ll always do X”, you’re limiting your future opportunities and tying yourself to a promise that you’ll most likely not keep.
Empowering alternative: Sometimes, Often. Using these words enables you to keep an open, mind, and not bow yourself in.
When you follow a statement you just made with the word “but”, you negate everything you said. This simple word prevents you from accomplishing something. “I want to lose weight, but I love chocolate”. Your mind will focus on the second part of the sentence instead of the first part.
Empowering alternative: And, However
9. I’ll try
Saying you’ll try conveys a sense of disengagement, of uncertainty. It also opens the door to failure and you’ll be ok with that. You’ll be more likely to give up and not push yourself to give it your all.
Empowering alternative: I commit, I will. Committing to doing something sets clear intentions and you’ll be much more likely to succeed.
Disempowering words and what to replace them with
I’m not ____ as ____
I am great at ____
I can, I choose not to, I don’t want to
I have to
I get to, I choose to
I could, I choose to
I’m too old or I’m too young
I can and I will
Never / Always
I commit, I will
Tips to remove these words from your vocabulary
There is no magic wand you can use to make these words disappear but here are tips you can use.
Pay close attention to the words you say and catch yourself when you use disempowering words. Don’t judge or shame yourself but be conscious.
Immediately reformulate what you just said and congratulate yourself when you change your vocabulary.
Practice makes… Progress! The more you practice being mindful of the words you choose, the better at it you’ll become!
Focus on empowering words
To make a habit of using empowering words, make a list of words that speak to you and that you’d like to say more often, and repeat them every day. Positive affirmations are a great way to do this. You can also write your empowering words in your journal and read them out loud every day.
If you want to create your dream life, you need to make sure your thoughts and words are in alignment with that. Take a careful look at the words you use every day and start shifting your mindset to one of gratitude. Everyday situations will seem less insurmountable and your outlook on life will be so much more positive.
Remember, you have the power to control your thoughts and your emotions!
It’s your turn to act and remove these disempowering words from your vocabulary! What other words can be added to this list? Let me know in the comments!
Till next time,